Crisis

We all go through crises, one way or another in life. It is almost inevitable to avoid. But paired with crises are: intense emotions. And are these inevitable to avoid or not?

Because we are all different human beings with different personalities and unique perspectives, it makes it almost impossible to understand anyone fully. And when I say fully, I mean fully; especially in high emotional crises.

Emotions are so high, egos are raging and family drama seems to be at a peak. We scream and shout at each others throats, implying that we are the only ones who have the best intentions at heart. Most of us actually do have the best intentions at heart, but the way it escapes our mouths is a lot different than we had thought it would sound.

We don’t want to hurt each other and we mostly realize this after we have hurt each other. No need to fret though, it is never too late to make amends, if the other person is willing that is. And even that is in your control because of Neville Goddard’s realization: EIYPO (Everyone Is you Pushed Out). ⬅️ Click the link to read more about that phenomenon.

You see, I am making this post because I’m interested in the control we have over our emotions, especially when in highly intense emotional times. This is mostly out of self-protection, because I am a person who feels rather intensely and in high emotional situations this is not a nice feeling. It is a good thing though to feel things intensely when the emotions are positive, but not so much when they are negative. So, this post is for you my fellow HSP (High Sensitive People). ⬅️ Again, click the link for an explanation, otherwise this post will be too long.

Note:

I don’t really believe in labels such as being an HSP (because it can sometimes limit a person), but there was a time in my life where I believe I was one. So, if you are one now, this might help you. :)

I still feel emotions intensely, but they are far less intrusive now.

So, is there a way of having full control over your emotions when in a highly emotional situation? Yes, there most certainly is. How?

• Let go of the control over your emotions;

• Stop resisting emotions;

• Meditate frequently;

• Don’t take things so personally;

• Develop a bird’s eye view on things.

‘’So, in order to have full control over our emotions, we have to let go of control over our emotions?’’

Yes. This is called: The Backwards Law. ⬅️ Seriously, click the link again because this one is a real good one to understand!

But in short: The Backwards Law was popularized by one of my favorite philosophers: Alan Watts. It basically means that, if we take in this case the example of trying to resist intense emotions, they tend to persist. Or if you try NOT to think about a pink elephant, you end up thinking about a pink elephant. So, you do the backwards thing hence the name: The Backwards Law. This you probably already figured out by yourself.

This is what has really helped me to have conscious control over my emotions and not to have knee-jerk reactions. Knee-jerk reactions are annoying to have and they don’t help anyone either. I mean, who wants to be a reactor to unpleasant things in their life and therefore creating more of unpleasant things, because: when you react -> you identify with -> give energy to -> create more of unpleasant thing.

Also, as I said before, we sometimes end up hurting the people we love, when it is especially in those times that we should be there for each other. This is not intentional and not wanted (obviously), but sometimes cannot be avoided when being in a reactive mode or as Eckhart Tolle calls it: being unconscious. Because when you hurt someone it is almost always unintentional (to the average person), therefore you are unconscious or overtaken by: the ego.

As I said in previous posts: your ego is the one feeding you the negative thoughts and when you identify with them, the ego survives. The ego survives because of identification. You are in actuality a pure, positive and eternal being, who’s natural state is (you guessed it) being positive!

This is why feeling good feels good and feeling bad feels bad, you are supposed to feel good!

So, if you are going through a crisis right now or are overtaken by emotions, remember to not try to have control over them because that will only make it harder. If letting go is too hard too, then don’t try it! Feel whatever there is that you feel and remember that any negative comment or action taken by another person who is also highly emotional, has nothing to do with you personally. Be there for each other but most of all:

be there for yourself. 🧘‍♀️

‘’We must accept finite disappointment, but we must never lose infinite hope.’’

~ Martin Luther King.

Thank you so much for reading! 💕✨

- Juliet